Reflections on Sports Chaplaincy: Listening, Empathy, and Encouragement

In the world of sports chaplaincy, sometimes the greatest skill we can offer is the ability to simply be present and listen. While this may sound like a simple task, it’s one that often takes intentional effort, especially when we feel the urge to solve problems quickly. As I’ve reflected on my role, I’ve come to realize that there are moments when my input should take a backseat, allowing space for others to be heard. This was a key takeaway from recent learning that continues to shape my approach.

The power of empathy over sympathy stood out to me. In the midst of navigating my responsibilities as both chaplain and coach, I’ve noticed that coaches—especially this season—are facing increasing pressure from outside sources, like parents. Instead of jumping to offer solutions or draw from personal experiences, I've found that acknowledging their struggles and simply listening creates an opening for deeper, more meaningful conversations. This is where the ministry of presence shines brightest, as it reflects the heart of James 1:19, which reminds us to be "quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry."

One valuable resource I’ve drawn from is an interview with Roger Lipe, whose wisdom continues to resonate with me. His advice on guiding athletes to “learn to learn” and helping them recognize God’s presence in all areas of their lives, including the sports field, has been both challenging and encouraging. Most importantly, he reminded me that as a chaplain, it’s crucial to allow the coach to set the parameters for my involvement. This mutual respect builds trust and creates an environment where ministry can flourish.

As I reflect on the athletes I serve, one in particular stands out. This young woman, an exceptional athlete heading to a Division I program, often struggles with finding joy in her game. It’s clear her focus is on achievement and external validation, especially when she hears her father’s voice from the stands. My prayer for her is that she would experience the presence and joy of God, not just through accolades, but in the simple joy of the game itself, as Psalm 37:4 reminds us, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Finally, I’m reminded of the power of small, intentional acts of encouragement—notes of affirmation, giving a book to a coach, or simply checking in. These moments of care can go a long way in building relationships and deepening the impact of our ministry. It’s not always the grand gestures that speak loudest, but the quiet acts of kindness that reflect the heart of God.

In all of this, I am continually reminded that chaplaincy isn’t about doing for others; it’s about being with them—listening, empathizing, and encouraging. I pray that through these simple actions, I can help others experience God’s love in ways that extend beyond the game.

Reflection Questions:

1. Listening and Presence:
   When was the last time you felt truly heard? How can you practice being more present with those you serve, especially in moments when they need to be listened to rather than offered advice?

2. Empathy vs. Sympathy:
   Reflect on a time when you’ve tried to offer sympathy or solve someone’s problem quickly. How might you approach a similar situation with more empathy and a willingness to listen instead?

3. Coaching and Ministry:
   As a coach, chaplain, or mentor, how can you create a space for others to experience God’s presence on the field or in their work? How do you balance the roles of being a spiritual guide and a supportive teammate or coach?